I may be on a little bit of a soapbox today, but bear with me.

What you think about, you bring about. Ever think about that statement? What does it mean? How does that apply to your everyday living, your relationships, and your health?

Think about it for a minute. You wake up with a headache. Maybe it’s because you slept “wrong” or you hate facing the morning commute to work. Perhaps you had an argument with a loved one the night before. Now you’re focusing on the pain in your head, and the more you think about how it hurts, the worse it gets. You grab the bottle of aspirin or ibuprofen and chug down a pill or two. You continue to think about how much your head hurts until the drugs kick in…

What if you changed your “language?” and said something different to yourself? Realize that you do have a headache, then focus on how it would feel if you didn’t have it. Try picturing a calm and inviting work environment. Or calling up your loved one and telling them “I love you even though we didn’t see ‘eye to eye’ last night.” Envision something you enjoy, like walking through your favorite park, dipping into your favorite dish of ice cream, taking a nice relaxing bath, or whatever makes you feel good. Tell yourself “I am perfectly fine,” even though you may not feel like it, because your mind tells your body what to do and how it will feel! Hey, you might have to repeat that statement twenty times, but it just might do the trick!

When I had the dreaded “c” word (cancer), and knew intuitively that I would not be going through conventional treatment except for surgery to remove the tumor, I told myself each and every day that I was perfectly healthy. No pity party for me! My body did not need to be “reminded” that it had serious challenges to overcome. Instead, I chose to put my faith in self-healing first, and then believed my body would rid itself of the cancer. No matter what I felt like on any particular day, I told myself, “I have a perfectly functioning and healthy body.” And guess what? That was over ten years ago, without the dreaded chemo and radiation that was pushed at me.

If you choose to have a pity party, don’t invite others to join you! We all have pity parties to some extent, and I’m just as guilty as others! But the “parties” are very short-lived and I have trained myself to turn the negative thoughts into happy ones. One of the best ways I’ve found is to focus on what I do have instead of what I don’t. Even with the cancer diagnosis, I was so very grateful for my healing and the change in attitude which allowed me to continue to see the positive side of everything.

Don’t allow yourself to get pulled into others’ complaint departments either. Misery loves company, but push yourself away from those energy drains! Your emotional and physical body will love you for it!